Strategies To Regain Control of the Mind
Most of the time our minds are being controlled not by us, but by outside vices. These vices are in some ways initialized by some form of situation that may have happened in the past.
If the situation is not being addressed at that time in a healthy way, might give birth to outside vices taking over because you won’t. The programming of trying to heal, starts and becomes more difficult to manage because there may not have been adequate strategies in place to help achieve a healthy result. Now, you are dealing with the devil you know!
Systems that may Force Itself into your Life
- Anger/ Thought management; Anger is created by a heighten awareness of a situation not yet addressed creating frustration where the mind is having a hard time processing.
- Alcohol; if not used in a proper way may lead the person in a direction of impairment which cause difficulty coping with situations.
Drugs; May causes a strong form of intoxication, unable to function normally plus, the incapability of making rational decisions.
Addressing the Root
Reaching the understanding of addressing the root means that we first have to define the purpose of our behaviour.
Let me explain; The behaviours title is to manage the flow of the emotions that are presented and provide a pathway for the action to flow through.
Realizing that there is a problem with our behavior generally leads us to be believe that, there may be something deeper going on underneath the surface.
We now will have to ask ourselves some difficult questions:
- Q; What did I see, hear or feel in my history that my mind had a hard time processing?
- Q; How did I respond to those processes (triggers)?
- Q; When according to what I remember did this happen? Try your best to pin point the time!
- Q; Who or what in my opinion do I feel may have contributed to this process? Relationships
- Q; Where did this start happening?
These questions are sometimes hard but, will give us a starting point in repairing the harm to the unhealthy vices that has been done.
What did the mind do to compensate the anxiety that was felt?
Was it a fight or flight experience?
In some cases, we were not trained to speak out on what’s wrong or what does not feel right! We tend to listen to our feeling rather then speak out our thoughts questioning the (Y), questioning the motives of (why did that happen?) The concept of needing an explanation must be added into the conversation with a trusted other to open up an opportunity for healing of a certain area.
Conditioning of the Mind
The mind will always need conditioning. If we leave our mind up to whatever it wants to do, we will run the risk of deeper concerns that may not end well, for example:
- Having no monitoring of Boundaries.
this means that there will be anxieties of not knowing the difference between right and wrong, good feelings and bad feelings, stopping a particular action or continuing that actions.
- Having no modeling to give boundaries.
We are creatures of habit, we tend to copy what we see, we don’t see healthy behaviours modeled and this will become difficult to manage. In the end this will cause our thoughts to think there are no consequences for our actions until it’s too late.
- Parents being responsible for this type of conditioning. Each parent has their own primary responsibility for their children. The parent will always have the inside lane of influence into their child over any man made contributor.
Pathological Mood Altering Experience
- The Path: How it is constructed is normally not noticeable at first, but as you repeat the same pattern of direction, the path becomes more clear. (a trail)
- The mood: The brain remembers the same mood and patterns that was being created from before, not knowing if it is right or wrong to create.
- Altering: As the brain recognizes a new habit may be forming, will intercept or remove any distraction that might prohibit or inhibit Altering and implementing a new path or mood (habit) from being created.
The new habit now is formed and will become stronger once repeated.
- Experience: Over stimulation of the experience may become overwhelming with potential of taking over the subconscious mind. If the conscious mind is repeatedly being bombarded with recurring patterns, the brain may not be able to process the data as quick at first, but eventually it will.
The difficulty may start with the rest of the body not getting clear instructions the right away of what it needs to do or, how it should respond to whatever is happening. If this delay is too long the mind will default and go back to what it was doing before; this action may set up the mind falsely, giving the mind a harder time trying to catch up to the experience. (Example quitting smoking, or changing your diet)
This process may need to be explained a couple of times and even in different ways, so the mind has clear instruction on how to process the information properly.
These are some of the reasons behind why habits form and their practical applications of their methods.
The VR System (Virtual Reality)
This new digital form of expression is one the fastest mood altering systems out in the current market. We have now come to the age of merging virtual with reality. In my opinion is becoming the newest form of addiction because of it’s methods and how it targets the mind.
- Some people like the VR experience because of it’s digital ability. It’s fast, and you never have to wait long to start the process of using it.
- They make it easy to operate, the function is simple and the hardware is not heavy.
- The function of the VR system never demands your time; you begin to eventually demand it’s time!
- This system allows you to have full control; which may have an adverse affect because of the comfort of feeling that control; the mind will slowly start to get use to that feeling and want more.
- It gives an escape; the VR system can at anytime give you a platform for you to escape, at any given moment, you can disappear from your reality. The danger is that your mind may start to have a hard time deciphering to difference.
Let’s face it, people are stressed and are looking for an escape. The VR concept although may have good intentions and could make it fun for people to have that outlet could begin to have a hard time managing. At the end of the day, the VR phenomenon, in my opinion may need to put safe guards in place for the customer.
In order for VR to truly work, it’s needs access to your mind and only you can open that door to allow right of entry. This is where the individual set up boundaries and pre-emptive action plans to help protect him or her from falling into the addictive trap of not being able to manage their thoughts well.
Here are some suggestive ways to help put boundaries in place; A Preventative method of your thoughts
To prevent this, we have to address the issues and go on the attack from the front end.
- Take a look at how your day went or is going. Sometimes just by getting into the habit of looking at how proactive your day was will give a running log of how you can change and make your day better.
- Paying close attention to your body and how it has responded to what you have experienced that day.
During the day, think of anything that did not sit well with you, stop, try to remember what it was. Don’t beat yourself up over it if you can’t recall all the events. Your thoughts will try and re-initiate the sequence again of what you did before.
- Remember, your brain will try and repeat what it remembered you doing from before. If the body is stressed in any way, it will do what you programmed it to do from before
- if stressed and you smoke, your mind will try and present you with that cigarette
- If you drink, the mind will try and lead to a place where you can have a drink easily and present you with that drink, also the body will be in anticipation of the event (taste buds will activate, familiar smells of alcohol will activate)
- If you get angry, the mind will try and present you with a scenario to be angry about something,
- If you like to spend and you shouldn’t, the mind will present you with an invitation to the mall to spend,
- If you gamble the mind will try and get you to the casino to gamble, games (VR), or initiate any addictive habits.
Once you zero in the on events that will be your entry point of the cycle. Write it down.
- Writing the events down tends to give you a visual account of what’s happening. There is just a reinforcement of the data being submitted for memory which you may be able to recall the info when it’s comes up. The brain records the method of how you write things down, how you are seeing what is being written and how you heard what has been said. All of these elements combined gets stored into memory and is prepared for use later.
- Try your best to replace the thoughts that didn’t sit well with you, with positive thoughts. This exercise helps the mind record new habits; the goal is the application of doing that. Please take note that the conscious mind is preparing the subconscious mind for the new habit.
- The subconscious mind does not know the difference between right and wrong, all it will know is the data it’s receiving good or bad habits and sets it up for use.
- Cancel out any new forms of shame that might want to make its home and discredit your mind into thinking that there is no good in you. “Know, that there is greatness within you, far greater then you can ever begin to imagine!” Les Brown
- Call a close friend, and let them know where you are at, with your struggle, or with your thought life!
This will give your mind time to slow down; it will create confusion of its normal routine
- Change your environment and create a healthier one; if traveling, please travel different routes to your destination. Put your favourite song, try not to present yourself in risky areas where you will find it hard to function well.
- The next time a trigger happens quickly start your action plan
Action Plan of your Mind
- Understand and know your cycle (check your tone)
- Know the time and place, write it down and make a change for next time
- Replace thoughts with positive thoughts, and continue to be encouraged
- Communicate with spouse or close friend and let them know what you are feeling. It is important here that the spouse or close friend does NOT JUDGE but are in a supportive role, and creates an atmosphere of hope.
- Practice your action plan