The general definition of depression is a psychological disorder that affects a person’s mood changes, physical functions and social interactions.
Severe despondency and dejection, accompanied by feelings of hopelessness and inadequacy.
A condition of mental disturbance, typically with lack of energy and difficulty in maintaining concentration or interest in life.
Webster dictionary defines Depression as” A state of feeling sad, but adds “ A psychotic disorder marked especially by sadness, inactivity, difficulty in thinking and concentration, a significant increase or decrease in appetite and time spend sleeping, a feeling of hopelessness and sometimes suicidal tendencies”.
Although many Doctors and counsellors can’t come up with the exact definition, would be safe to say that depression is form of mood that presses you away from happiness.
Depression is widely complex and varies through adolescents and also into a maturing person’s development.
Causes of Depression or Signs through Adolescents and you adulthood
- Developmental struggles
- Thinking negatively
- Stress of life
- Biological factors
- Older more mature person
- Parental Concerns
- Physical appearance
- Things spoken on to that person/triggers childhood memory
With young people most times, if they are not encouraged in some way, low self-esteem will come into their environment. Parents are associated with this factor, we as parents need to be aware that this is a possibility. Some of the most damaging effect of neglect in a child’s life which is not so readily recognize is a detached parent. The lack of interest investment, involvement, and the reality of just being available is a major problem with children today. This s form of detachment has transferred from a problem level to crisis level. There can be many reasons given for the inactiveness. Marriage break ups, lifestyles, financial hardship, more than one child, mental health issues, selfishness, parenting skills may be lacking, behaviors etc. All are excuses, and may not hold much weight.
Parents are noted as the primary source of comfort, security and development in a young person. A young person will pick up and strengthen their self-esteem if those concerns are met.
Remember, the relationship between rejection and low self-esteem are close. This is common with young people, and a lot of times you may not be able to detect that the young person is depressed (very hard to notice). This system may continue as they get order into adult years and as an adult they may become professionals at hiding their depression.
2. Developmental struggles
In this I’m referring to Physical development, meaning as a person grows a certain way there may be pressure to look a certain way. For example;
Psychologically looking in a mirror and drawing a conclusion in your mind of how you look may cause a depressive state.
People offering up there opinion of how you look or what you should do about your look.
Media plays a big factor on appearance especially for women, could contribute to depression
Now we know that not all biological struggles send people into a depressive state. But lack of exercise, side effects of drugs and no healthy diet can lead to depression.
Depression can also run in the family, familiar genetic strains may be a factor, but the key is staying healthy.
3. Thinking Negatively
A person’s way of thinking can contribute to a negative depressive state. To this we see three different areas;
- The future: Sometimes a negative thinking person views the future as not promising and will have something negative or bad to say about it. They see hopelessness as a drive to give up, Frustration; the ability to give up too soon and even being confronted with hard times. This concludes to the depressive person that end is near.
- How a Depressed person Views Self: They feel negative about themselves, they feel unworthy and decline on a lot of activities, they feel inadequate not thinking they can measure up, and they see themselves as weak and incapable.
- How they see their Environment: They see the environment as a burden of quicksand, a trap and a constant reminder of obstacles that the world is going nowhere.
There areas wear down the thinking of an individual and does not allow any positive reinforcement.
4. Stress of Life
Stress is the main factor of depression. Stress tends to piggy back a crisis or life changing events. When this happens stress attaches to that issue or concern. Some causes of stress are as follows:
- An intense break up of a relationship
- Family problem (discord)
- Separation (Parental or spousal)
- Death of someone close
- Unplanned pregnancy
- Any event that may lower self –esteem out self
- Failure to make goals
A good way to become less stressed is to be more self-aware of what’s going on with you, stay calm when events happen, sometimes things are beyond your control, Plan out event before they happen, if you can see it coming you can make adjustments.
5. Biological Factors
In research, they describe anger turned inward; this put the body and mind under extreme pressure or stress. As this happens generally moves into a depressive state quickly finding out that there are few off ramp to defuse what you are feeling. The mind goes into defense mood becoming depressed.
To move this contributing anger from an inward state, you will need to reach outward to friends that you can trust. It is important to have the anger somewhere to go. Defuse the anger quickly by talking about. Find a hobby that you enjoy and do it regularly.
Psychologically depressed people generally think about themselves.
- Their attitude and primary focus are on deeds of the past and they blame themselves( things they felt they could have done better)
- They try to avoid feeling bad , but end up with guilty feelings
- Paralyzes them, and makes that person helpless, which leads them into further rebellion.
We must recognize that guilt generally comes before depression. We must try to be optimistic when thing in our life go terribly wrong. Put together a plan of positive things that can be implemented in your life. Prepare for crisis so went it happens you are ready, Pray wisdom, surround yourself with encouragement, talk about it to a trusted other so reassurance is given, try and avoid being alone.
8. Older / More Mature Person
9. Parental Concerns
If children are having a hard time learning how to adjust, it could lead the parent into a depressive state; they tend to feel it is their fault.
Learning how to keep up with your children can be frustrating and can lead to that parent being depressed.
Heaviness of responsibility
Find help and don’t be afraid to ask for it, stay healthy with regular time for exercise, read the Psalms which is beneficial for those going through certain conditions.
10. Physical appearance
How we look and how we see ourselves can be stressful. The body of depressed persons will show clear changes, such as; extreme weight loss or extreme weight gain, this may be activated by lack of sleep initially, body movement is generally slow, eating habits, time of when to eat varies, not structure or plan in place, basically just letting yourself go if, there is not a medical condition standing in the way.
Recognize that depression can affect you physically, it is important to have a planned structure for your health. Diet is a significant step toward being healthy mentally and physically. Be quick to gauge how you are feeling and make adjustments accordingly. Seek advice from a professional and lay all the cards out so they can help you.
12. Aloneness and Triggers
In some ways depression can be hidden through a mask which is not been easily seen. Being alone gives the depression time to set up, and become rooted, by pondering on the guilt. This set a platform of acting out through masks. For example
- Working too much
- Sexual deviant behaviours, sexual problems
- Aggressiveness and anger, sudden outbursts of intimidating action
- Prone to accidents
- Binge drinking or just drinking impulsively, gambling,
All these reactions contribute in a way to cover what might be going on underneath the surface by the masks we put on.
This can further paralyze the person and or isolate them, sometimes to the point of suicide.
Comfort, security and development
The key is staying healthy
Thinking Negatively: In this area, don’t wear down the thinking of an individual and allow positive reinforcement.
Stress of life: A good way to become less stressed is to be more self-aware of what’s going on with you, stay calm when events happen, sometimes things are beyond your control, plan out events before they happen, if you can see it coming you can make adjustments.
Anger: To move this contributing anger from an inward state, you will need to reach outward to friends that you can trust. It is important to have the anger somewhere to go. Defuse the anger quickly by talking about it. Find a hobby that you enjoy and do it regularly.
Guilt: We must recognize that guilt generally comes before depression. We must try to be optimistic when thing in our life go terribly wrong. Put together a plan of positive things that can be implemented in your life. Prepare for crisis so went it happens you are ready, make wise decisions, surround yourself with encouragement, talk about it to a trusted other so reassurance is given, try and avoid being alone.
Parenting concerns: Find help and don’t be afraid to ask for it, stay healthy with regular time for exercise, read self-help books which is beneficial for those going through certain conditions.
Physical Appearance: It is important to have a planned structure for your health. Diet is a significant step toward being healthy mentally and physically. Be quick to gauge how you are feeling and make adjustments accordingly. Seek advice from a professional and lay all the cards out so they can help you.
Aloneness and Triggers: Restore hope (knowing that everything is going to be just fine) Things spoken on to that person/triggers childhood memory
Action Plan Tools:
- Stay encouraged
- Reach out beyond the walls that bind you by staying in positive friendships
- New activities to change the mind set( sports, recreational, hobbies)
- Cancel the guilt In the Name of Jesus
- Be self-aware
- Fill your time wisely,
- Be transparent with a trusted other (Accountability person)
- Understand that this a tactic of unhealthy thoughts may lead you down combining paths with other struggles, so make the necessary adjustments
Always see yourself beyond the depressed state of guilt, always walk upright.
Tools that you can do every day, do them each day and you will overcome situations.